Has technology killed romance?

I went to see my good friend Katy this weekend; she has two daughters. As they buzzed around us with all their social apps, it led us to discuss the subject of messaging tools; how there are so many now compared to when we were kids.

Her girls facetime, whatsapp, kik with all their friends and that’s not including Twitter and Facebook which they aren’t on yet. They are too young for boys at the moment but imagine when boys are on the scene, it will be communication overload!

We talked about how much easier the dating scene was; remember when you used to wait for a boy to call you on the landline. Or you used to reverse the charges just so you could call your boyfriend from the pay phone. Even when I met my ex boyfriend 11 years ago, we used to leave each other notes rather than ring as he didn’t have a mobile. How I treasured those notes at the time!

I’m all over a bit of of communication, I’m on all the apps! I just can’t help thinking that our love lives were easier when all we had to worry about was doing 1471 to see if a boy called! Now we have to wait for a tweet/email/facebook/text/bbm/whatsapp.
I’m sure the last thing on the list is a phone call, which is a shame as there is nothing lovelier than getting a call no matter how exciting a flashing whatsapp message is when it pops up.

I worry that technology has sucked the romance out of it all. Some may say that more communication options and online dating make things easier but I’m not so sure. I feel it makes everything less organic, less mysterious; I don’t want to go online and see what the boy I fancy did last night or what food he enjoys before I’ve had the chance to meet up with him and find out for myself.

It’s all just a bit contrived and not to mention the added insecurity (we’ve all been there) of seeing the object of our desire online when they’ve not been in touch. As if this stuff isn’t hard enough as an adult but I feel for these girls, how many more communication apps will be added to the never ending list through out their adolescence?!

I appreciate there are a million pros to all this amazing new technology and I love nothing more than face-timing my brother in Australia; we could have done with that ten years ago and missed him less.

Of course social media and online dating are great ways to meet love interests and there are millions of happy endings to prove that. But every time another social app comes out, part of me feels a bit sad. It’s nice to keep things simple sometimes and nothing beats a real conversation to bring a little romance to life.

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2 Comments

  1. September 29, 2013 / 10:22 pm

    I read the title and immediately said YES. Sam and I have to promise to not use our phones on date nights. ridiculous, I agree, but they’ve become such a part of our lives.

  2. September 29, 2013 / 10:22 pm

    I read the title and immediately said YES. Sam and I have to promise to not use our phones on date nights. ridiculous, I agree, but they’ve become such a part of our lives.

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