wedding Fever

Last Saturday I went to a wedding. As excited as I was to see my friend walk down the aisle, i was starting to feel anxious about attending. Since the life of a single girl has been thrust upon me, weddings (that had once been a joy) had now turned to an almost phobia. The last few weddings I have been to, I have been waiting for someone to ask me (and they always do)…, are you with any body? You can be assured then, that the whole table is waiting for the answer…once you say ‘no, not at the moment’, they will (again they always do) kindly suggest internet dating. Not for one minute would they think that you are single by choice, after all you are in your thirties, surely you want to settle down, have children. Some may not be as presumptuous, but will think quietly to themselves things like; ‘Mmm maybe she’s gay, maybe she goes for bad boys’? Or they do the sympathetic tilt of the head. All now regular wedding fun for me, since becoming single again. I think I have just been a little unlucky, as the last few occasions have found me as literally the only person in the room – single. I was lucky enough this time to be meeting an old (single) friend and attending with her. I needn’t have worried, the whole day was perfect, a mixture of singles, old folks, marrieds. The bride (being a singleton for so many years herself and always very emphatic) had the table planning down to absolute perfection. No one asked the dreaded question, no one cared, they were all too busy having a good time. I have a lot of things to thank my friend for, but I will be eternally grateful to her, for getting me over my wedding anxiety! After all , everyone loves a good wedding :)



  1. February 21, 2010 / 11:32 am

    Brilliant post, there's nothing worse than when you get that question…I'm the exact same, the question of "so when are you two getting married" has been replaced with "so, seeing anyone" I tend not to answer – which is rude but so is prying into the love life of someone who clearly isn't seeing anyone or they'd be sat there with them.

  2. February 22, 2010 / 3:41 pm

    Somebody that used to drink in the Bedford from time to time saw a friend of mine the other day and asked how I was… my friend replied that I was pregnant… the woman, just a face in the pub (not a friend), said "really, I thought she was a lesbian. She never had a bloke on the go". People can be very annoying at times!

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