Vanishing men!

My good (pretty, fun and interesting) friend J came up with the funniest answer to a question posed by many women over the years, the other night, and it had me laughing out loud.
J has been on a few dates over the years, not numerous or anything, just a few here and there. A guy she dated last year (a Gemini) she saw for a few dates, then he vanished into thin air; she never heard from him again. I, of course put this down to him being a Gemini man but she has since come up with an even better explanation. Obviously she explored all the insecurities us girls have when these men just disappear but that’s not a great way to make any one feel good, so other reasons are always best looked into! This year she started to date another guy (incidentally another Gemini!), she saw him for 4 dates and he was really in to her – emailing and texting, always keen to set another date up. Then after the last and 4th date – nothing, gone, he vanished, she is quite stubborn so didn’t call him – I think she may have emailed but that was it, she never heard from him again and that was about a month ago. J was not devastated by this at all but again wondered where she went wrong or why she picked such a twit. All I could come up with again, was that he was a Gemini Man – great help I know, but I did warn her! The thing is she is not the only one – and it isn’t just Gemini men (I do realise this fact), my other friend dated someone for a few months – had a row with him then they never spoke again even though she tried to chat to him etc.  Another friend went on a date, they had a coffee, he invited her back to his, they had another coffee, he kissed her goodbye and you guessed it, she never heard from him again! I mean good manners would be nice wouldn’t it?! A polite – ‘Sorry I am just not that into you’ or something would suffice! Miranda in Sex and the City says ‘when i don’t hear from a guy after the second date, I just imagine he is dead’. :)

J has gone one better, last night I received a text from her saying ‘I have just seen the film trailer for The Time Traveller’s Wife and have worked out that’s where all these men are going….they are all time travellers….’ I know it was a joke, but really it is an interesting thought! Maybe the Greek isn’t really in Greece, maybe he is time travelling and maybe J’s latest date had to go back to 1985 or something….who knows. So girls…next time we need to comfort ourselves – hang on to the concept of time travel it beats any other reasoning I can think of!


  1. August 13, 2009 / 7:56 pm

    Yeah, I guess its a blow to our self confidence if we knew the real reason, so we resign ourselves to self delusional imaginings…I had a guy "disappear" too. (Virgo man) But, found out later he picked up another girl without breaking up with me first. But, things were going sooooo well as he was absolutely beside himself over me…or so he made me think (which I think is cruelty at it's worse) If he is really into you, he will stick around. Most will say what you want to hear just to get what he wants and then dump you…sometimes right after he thinks you have fallen for him…. even if you don't say the L word or anything…they just know. It's a power thing.Sometimes its just a case of him thinking with the "disco stick". That does not require any thinking whatsoever.

  2. August 13, 2009 / 10:36 pm

    some men are just mean – some are lovely though – i am sure lol

  3. August 14, 2009 / 11:49 am

    ha ha love this…men are weird creatures!!The time traveler’s wife reference is sooooo funny – and yes I will be using that next time a man disappears on me too!!

  4. August 19, 2009 / 9:25 pm

    So many disappearing men I hear, time travellers is the answer lol Its a shame it doesn't work when you want them to disappear :) xx

  5. February 11, 2010 / 12:44 pm

    This has just made me laugh, something I needed today. I'm currently in the 'vanishing man limbo' waiting on an Aquarian man to get his arse into gear and call….. gaaah.But I'll just keep telling myself that he's busy saving the world in World War 2 or something rather than face up to the fact that something I have said may have put him off. I mean I'm irresistible. Right?

  6. Bubbles and Heels
    August 29, 2015 / 2:17 am

    hahaha :)

      August 29, 2015 / 7:28 am

      Retro post lol

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