Crush

I was going to write quite flippantly about this subject a while back but every time I discussed – what I thought was quite a teenage issue – with my friends, it became more complex and I ended up having too much to write about!
My first crush was when I was about 12, on a boy at school – I used to chase him round the school, find a different route to class, leave notes in his locker, write his name on my school books; you name every classic crush move and I made it! I was very cliche and would have fitted in very well in any of the teen movies of that time! (sixteen candles, pretty in pink etc..) The boy in question is now (18 years later) a good friend of mine, and we laugh off my 5 year on/off crush on him, though he still looks ready to run every time he sits next to me in the pub. Old habits die hard I guess!

I was brought up in a pub so crushes to me were par for the course, surrounded by all different types of boys during those all important adolescent years, I don’t think there was a time when I didn’t have a crush on someone. I relished in and enjoyed every minute of the drama that goes with it.

My other important teenage crush was of course George Michael! The most common kind of crush – the one we have on a pop star or someone in the public eye. My sister took me to his concert at the age of 14 and I was dreading it as I thought he was some hairy old man; when he started to sing though my crush was escalated to the very highest of crushness! It was a different kind of crush to the one on the boy at school but just as adrenalin fuelling and exciting.

Sometimes the thrill of having a crush when your younger is knowing you wont get the person and it’s fun keeping it all a secret, but as we become older and get a grown up crush that kind of thing becomes unbearable. As adults we strive to get what we want, therefore having a crush on someone can become a source of miserable frustration. There are many levels of having a crush – it is described in the dictionary as ‘temporary infatuation’ and some people really do get a bit crazy with their crushes ie: crazed fans of pop stars and things!

MBF Danielle thinks its hilarious that I get crushes at this age, she remembers being dragged around the school chasing after my school crush with me, but she also claims that she has never had a crush! I reminded her that she did have a crush on Mr Whitehead (yes, that really was his name), but she now says that she only had a crush on him to join in the crush fun and that she was far too proud to have a crush on anyone. I kind of get her point, there is no dignity involved when head over heels crushing on someone! She did also have Rob Lowe and Tom Cruise plastered all over her school book and ‘Danielle 4 Tom’scrawled everywhere, so I am not sure if she is just in denial.:) 

GBF loves to have a crush especially at work, he thinks it makes the day much more fun and loves that heady feeling you get (everyone except Danielle), this would not be any good for me as I would be far too distracted, am grateful at times to be in an office full of women! Suzie is 50 and she had a crush on a man at work for a whole year at work – she loved having a crush as it made her feel fabulous and giddy and she took pride even more in her appearance at work everyday. She got fed up in the end, daily flirtations just wasn’t enough – she wanted more, as we all do.

I asked my man guru friend Kev what he thought the difference between a crush and actually fancying someone was, and he said a crush is a fantasy, with fancying someone there is a glimmer of hope you can get them! Crush is of a dreamlike nature. I love this and it sums it up perfectly.
So crushes can be fun, they can give you a nice boost and make you feel a bit dreamy but for me now, the best part of a crush is when it’s over!

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  1. July 25, 2009 / 12:26 pm

    wow I didn't know crushes were so deep!! I can't even remember having one… I must have, but I must be more optimistic, me? Anyway I don't get it :) Nice story though thanks xxx

  2. July 25, 2009 / 12:26 pm

    wow I didn't know crushes were so deep!! I can't even remember having one… I must have, but I must be more optimistic, me? Anyway I don't get it :) Nice story though thanks xxx

  3. July 25, 2009 / 2:20 pm

    its not compulsory to have a crush but you have a crush on roger daltrey so you have had one lol

  4. July 25, 2009 / 2:20 pm

    its not compulsory to have a crush but you have a crush on roger daltrey so you have had one lol

  5. July 25, 2009 / 3:01 pm

    You didn't mention your crush on me!Marcus "The Beast" McAdam

  6. July 25, 2009 / 3:01 pm

    You didn't mention your crush on me!Marcus "The Beast" McAdam

  7. July 25, 2009 / 6:53 pm

    ha ha you wish!! beast ;)

  8. July 25, 2009 / 6:53 pm

    ha ha you wish!! beast ;)

  9. July 26, 2009 / 1:34 am

    I remember some but probably not all of my teenage crushes. There were the teen rock stars but those changed on a weekly basis. There was one boy in high school but after awhile he developed a crush on me and I lost interest. I guess that took the fantasy away.

  10. July 26, 2009 / 1:34 am

    I remember some but probably not all of my teenage crushes. There were the teen rock stars but those changed on a weekly basis. There was one boy in high school but after awhile he developed a crush on me and I lost interest. I guess that took the fantasy away.

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