I spent time at the dreamful wedding last week with two very different men. One was a handsome young man aged 22 – good fun, charming, he had done his research and scoped me out as one of two single girls at the wedding, I loved this and thought it was very amusing! However, he was 22 and I have to draw the age line somewhere (ha ha so sensible!), so other than a lovely bit of banter he went on his merry way to investigate the other single girl – bless him.
The other man, I have know for years but have not seen him for years either. I had never really indulged myself in his company before; it was delightful, he was older, funny, chilled, knowledgeable and most of all there was nothing he didn’t know about music. He was also the most professional yet subtle flirt I have ever come across – I can flirt til I drop and even I had trouble keeping up with the situation. All very pleasant, humorous chit chat but when we said our goodbyes I couldn’t think of anything to say apart from breezily exclaiming ‘see you at the next wedding!’, I gave him a quick hug and ran! Nothing like behaving like a teenager in the company of an attractive older man – duh!
The next day at breakfast – my dad informed me that the man in question was in his 50’s – I asked ‘what just 50?’ and dad said ‘no, 57’, I nearly choked on my toast!! What is going on with me? Veering away from a handsome 22 year old only to be enamoured by a reasonably attractive 57 year old!? Still feeling quite shocked, I started wittering on about how it is soooo hard getting this man thing right.
The men I meet are either:
1. nice – but not that into me
2. way too old
3. way too young
4. with someone else
5. clever but not funny
6. funny but not clever
7. good looking but boring
8. boring but good looking
The list is endless, it’s not easy to get all the factors you like in one person and then have the added thing of actually clicking with them (most important). It’s not that I am desperate for a boyfriend because I am not, but great conversation and some fun would be nice. My dad’s response to all this was that ticking all the right boxes in someone is like a game of golf – if you haven’t got all the components then you really can’t play a good game!! It was the most random thing to say, a crazy analogy, and was absolutely no help to me, but it did make me laugh out loud.
Golf Vs My love life….what next?!